I can’t talk about being engaged enough lately. I feel excited and pressured all at the same time. It feels so great to not have to hide my reading of bridal blogs or looking at wedding dresses anymore. I’m engaged, so I can look at that stuff without judgement. (Shhh… I’ve been looking at wedding stuff since I was in grade school.) And lucky for you, I will be talking about weddings for a lot longer than I had planned… happily.
Before, I thought couples who were engaged for long periods of time did not really want to be married. I have long thought this, even before I saw the story of Pam and her so-called fiancé on The Office (see photo). If you don’t know the story, you can read a summary or watch the first seven seasons on Netflix.
It made me think to myself, ‘How could a guy afford an engagement ring and then not have enough money for a wedding? And, if all they wanted to do was get married, a civil ceremony is less than $100.’
I have always told myself and others that I would never want a long engagement. Changing your titles just for the sake of doing so is not admirable, IMO. Honestly, I still rarely call Prentyce fiancé. It just sounds kind of corny and wannabe fancy. Don’t you think? I would always say, “What’s the point of getting engaged if you don’t plan to have the wedding for a few years? Just get engaged later on.” (Can you tell I thought a lot about this before? It is what happens when you have been with somone for years upon years!)
But, my outlook on engagements has changed and for many reasons. I didn’t get to choose when I got engaged. If I did, it would have probably in late 2012, but then, it would not have been a surprise. I think that people nowadays choose when to have a wedding and then get engaged after. It is backwards to me, but the modern woman can be choosy and fierce.
It means so much to call Prentyce fiancé, but we are not ready for a wedding. He tells me all the time that he could marry me tomorrow and that we don’t have to wait. I haven’t completely agreed or disagreed in regards to his proposition, but I would still want a wedding later on. It’s a personal choice, but I want the whole shebang — the bridal/bachelorette shower, the ceremony, the reception, and the honeymoon.
I’m so glad Prentyce got into his career straight out of college, but in essence, we (mostly me) are still broke. Financially, right now (or even within a year), it would not be financially smart to pay for a wedding. I don’t plan on having a Kardashian wedding, but I still want it to be a day to remember. Plus, I don’t want Prentyce to pay for it all. I never made him pay for our prom by himself and I’m not planning on doing so with our wedding either. And, most importantly, we are NOT going into debt for a wedding! Continue reading